Make Him BEG For Your Attention: 75 Communication Secrets For Captivating Men To Get The Love And Commitment You Deserve (Smart Dating Books for Women) Paperback – December 18, 2013

Nice easy quick read

Getting the male perspective on dating is invaluable! This is a great resource to use in communicating more effectively with your guy. Some of the tips are common sense - don't nag him - but it helps to have a man point out the reasons why men don't respond to it. The male point of view in communicating with women was eye opening in several instances. I highly recommend this book to women who want to learn what makes a man tick, how he thinks and why he responds the way he does.

I found the advice in this book to be generally straight forward and practical. When reading this book, it's good to keep in mind that the advice applies to high quality loving men, not to abusive situations. It's stated in the book, of course, but could be forgotten if one is feeling defensive about a bad past relationship. Read the book with an open mind and heart.The only part I thought was vague was the section on silence. Using silence as a communication technique is a foreign concept to most people, so perhaps a book on this alone would be helpful. Unless its already instinctively a part of their communication style, women are likely to be confused and left wanting by this part. It could also be confused with ”the silent treatment,” which the book does say not to use, but I think that's the only relationship most people have with silence in communication.

Even if we know what NOT to say, doesn't mean we know what exactly to say instead. He does give a few examples of what to say, but mostly it's just a lecture and not terribly helpful. If we've had good role models, we wouldn't need this book. If we didn't then we need a lot more coaching. Some stories would be helpful and more examples of useful things to say in different situations.

The tips were hard to hear but they made a lot of sense and helped me shift my perspective. Out of the 75 there are only one or two that I felt completely “not me” but I still gleaned from the perspective. I will definitely check out other books by this author.

“Never chase man again” was a good book, after that book this one is a disappointment and can’t believe it’s written by the same person…

Many of these practical pieces of advice are just good common sense. But, considering how UN-common common sense is, many people need to read this book.Many of the points raised here are also true about PEOPLE, and not just specifically about women or men. Though much of the advice is based on the Mars/Venus differences between how women and men think and behave, this book would be almost as valuable for a man to read, in order to learn how to interact with women better.I think a very valuable way to use this book would be for a couple to read it together, discussing each point as they come to it. It might very well save some relationships or marriages. It's a cinch it would be cheaper than paying a marriage councilor.

This outlook on how to communicate with men is horribly communicated and is written from the perspective of a man who’s obviously mentally and emotionally still living in the last century. He implies that men go to work every day to a job they hate and women are sitting at home waiting for them to walk through the door so they can blabber about anything and that also men rarely even speak at all, let alone speak what’s on their mind. Maybe men 60 years plus are this way but this generation of men and younger are not that way and have been raised by a totally different generation of women. This book basically says to treat your man like a child and implies he has no responsibility in communication. It also completely rolls over some serious issues that women have been dealing with over the past 40 years which equates to discrimination, abuse and violence against women in this country. When he speaks of men’s anger, he tells women that when a man gets angry he could get physical so don’t make it worse by speaking. This book is wrong in so many ways.